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Dealing with Internet Trolls

Taylor Swift’s “Shake It Off” is probably loved by as many people who hate it, no pun intended. Though it’s not one of my favorites, I applaud Taylor for writing a song that rejoices in deflecting negativity. When it comes to trolls on the internet, it’s much harder to “shake it off” than it is to sing.

“THIS IS GARBAGE. I’M SORRY!”

Bumping into trolls online now seems like a part of our modern day life. Everyone has an opinion, and they feel is too important not to share.

Being a singer/songwriter with a small public platform, I get mean comments about my music, what I wear, and how I act. I usually deal with these comments by having a good cry and being done with it. They are painful of course but worse are comments that attack my skill. One particularly biting comment was posted under one of my youtube videos a few years ago. It sticks out in my mind because it was one of the only times I ever responded;

“This is garbage. I’m sorry…It is truly sad that we’ve to have all these unskilled musicians working the skilled out of work.  -JB”

Ouch.

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HE OPENED NOT HIS MOUTH

My response to “JB” was one of the only times I felt peace responding to a troll because I saw an opportunity to shed light on a misunderstood topic. The rest of the time, even when it hurts the most, I’ve felt led to remain silent.

Isaiah 53:7 famously says, “He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth.”

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SINGULAR FOCUS

Jesus had enemies, haters, and cruel comments flag at him. It comforts me to know that he understands our pain. Because he condescended and took on human form, these experiences hurt him as much as they hurt us, and more. Yet no matter how painful it was, most of the time he remained silent. He knew his mission on earth wasn’t to put haters in their place, but to save lost souls. Dedication to his mission outweighed the negativity of the opposition he faced, and he didn’t want to waste his time quelling hate when he could spend it healing the sick.

We can learn so much from this example.

What is your mission on earth? If you figure this out, you will be more equipped to deflect hardship, opposition, or even “haters.” Narrowing in our singular focus to what God has called us to will fix our eyes on the things that truly matter.

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  • Reply Korina Moran April 16, 2016 at 8:54 am

    From what I understand about the creation of “Shake It Off” Taylor was telling herself the very same thing you’re telling yourself, and… what each of us has to do that when we are Called to do something…. we need to shake off the comments that aren’t meant to fortify our Calling. That’s really hard. Sometimes the worst are the people closest to us who “mean well” but have zero regard for what our Calling is. One thing I’ve learned, Allison, (in the half-century I’ve enjoyed this life), is that every single time that someone says something negative about my Calling the REAL problem is that they are unhappy with themselves. It is true every single time. And when we look at it that way it gives us true compassion. (ex: “JB” feels he/she can’t get work & it’s upsetting him/her that you can. He/she doesn’t even know that he/she can tap into the true source of every inspiration and create his/her own work. The anger from that frustration makes him/her put you down. Ugh!) The internet makes us all feel so much more exposed. It’s truly unnerving to have the message “out there” for 8 billion people to read. ‘Makes us question our Calling. God is bigger than the opinion of 8 billion people. But it’s still really hard sometimes… those “internet trolls” though…. ugh! It makes us stronger. I’m ashamed to say I went through a time in my life when this stuff really, really got to me and I would say to God, (almost daily), “well…. if this is how it’s got to be I don’t WANT to be any stronger!” 😀 I’ve worked through that and learned that it doesn’t help to take into our heart the words & attitudes of the angry, unhappy people who lash out. It only makes us angry & unhappy. That’s not what we’re here for. We’re here to fulfill our Calling. May God Richly Bless You and all the Established in Grace Ladies as you fulfill a beautiful part of your Calling on this website! XO

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