I am tired. Moms don’t get days off. We don’t get weekends off. We might get an hour or two here and there when Dad is home and doesn’t have projects so we can tag him in… But if your kids are anything like mine, even when Dad is home, they still just want Mom.
I’m going to take a minute to brag on my husband, because he is fantabulous. When I am at my wit’s end, and just can’t take the incessant “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!” any more, and just need some peace and quiet, he steps in. On more than one occasion he has even put a baby gate across the hall so the kids can’t come pound on our bedroom door. He could be the poster child for Husband of the Year when he does that!
But he isn’t always available to bail me out. He travels a lot for work, besides his full-time job. Sometimes I’m parenting alone for a couple of weeks! Two weeks without a partner to tag in when I need a breather is a long time. I salute all the single parents out there pulling double duty. You guys are rock stars.
Sometimes we only make it to lunch time before my kids have pushed every button and I’m about ready to sell them to the zoo. I’m counting the minutes until bedtime, and praying they go to bed without a major struggle so I can sit on the couch in silence.
Motherhood is exhausting. Our families need to be fed, kept in clean clothes, bathed, read to, played with, cleaned up after, loved and cherished. Then there’s wife-hood. Husbands need special care and feeding as well. Sometimes running away or hiding in the closet sounds really tempting.
I’ve been participating in a Bible study in Ecclesiastes. You remember that book, “Everything is meaningless.” It is very easy to get bogged down with the endless cycle of dishes, laundry, sticky faces and bedtimes. We cook and clean and go to bed, just to wake up in the morning to start it all over again. And when we are neck deep in the trenches, it’s hard to see any kind of end in sight. Will these kids ever be able to eat without half their meal ending up on their face and hands? Will they ever be able to use the bathroom without needing my help? Will they ever start picking up their toys without help?
There are those who will say, “Enjoy these days! They go by so quickly, and then they will be gone! Your kids will never be young like this again!” Yes, that’s nice. But when my kids are fighting over the same toy for the gazillionth time today, it’s hard to enjoy the moment.
Instead, here’s something else to think about when you are pulling your hair out.
“Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 ESV
Motherhood is a good work. It is hard work. But don’t give up! You don’t have to always enjoy it. Sometimes it’s not enjoyable. But even when we are tired and weary, don’t give up!
Someday, they will be able to use the bathroom without your help. They will be able to eat without making a mess, they will even be able to wash the dishes, properly! They will grow up. And yes, someday you will miss this age. But you will also have the joy of seeing your kids growing up into godly men and women, with skills and good habits. Then all those times to had to break up a fight or clean up a mess or washed sticky faces will seem like a distant memory.
Don’t give up. Hang in there. Take a breather if you can. But don’t give up.